Being a teenager can be one of the most challenging times in someone’s life. The “YOU” that you have been familiar with – the kid version of you!! – is no longer who you are. But you’re not quite an adult yet either. You’re in an extended in between phase, called adolescence. This is the time in your personal development when forming a sense of self and idea of who “YOU” are is super important. But it’s unlikely that you’re going to wake up one morning with a total “a-ha” moment and a clear identity. It takes some reflection and contemplation time. That’s why this adolescence phase takes a few years, you’re not supposed to be able to figure it out over night!!!
A lot of cultures and communities around the world today and throughout history do have special ceremonies, where the whole community comes together and celebrates this time when a child becomes an adult. Many cultures see this kind of celebration – called a Rite of Passage – as more important than weddings, funerals, birthdays, even births. In these cultures, it’s recognised that adolescence is a super challenging transition phase, and that young people need the support and recognition of their whole community.
These kinds of celebrations are incredibly important and helpful and can be done in a way that suits our own culture and community. They can help you develop a more clear picture of the kind of adult you want to become, of what childhood behaviours you want to let go of, and what actions you need to take to get to where you want to be. They can also help parents let go of the kid version of you and see you as the emerging, responsible, unique and amazing adult you are becoming.
And then it’s an ongoing process. The Rites of Passage celebration or ceremony may only last a day or a week, but the whole phase of change through adolescence still takes several years.
So how can you experience this type of celebration and recognition? Here’s some simple steps for a DIY Rite of Passage….
If your parents and/ or your wider community of adults can be involved in this process, they get the chance to recognise and celebrate that you’re not a kid anymore. And you get a clearer idea about the new adult “YOU” that you’re becoming.
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