What are you up to over your next school holidays?
Will you spend some time with your teenage daughter? Or is that the last thing she wants?!
Have you got everything planned in advance or are you a spontaneous kind of family?
If you’re like most Mums you want to connect with your daughter and deepen the bond you have with her forever.
If your daughter is like most teenage girls, she wants to spend time with her friends and have some space from Mum. But she comes back to you when she needs a hug.
Would you love to spend 2 nights at an amazing retreat centre in the Byron Bay hinterland? With a blissful massage, scrumptious healthy food and lots of time to chill?
Would your daughter like to spend time with other teenage girls, sharing stories, dancing and having fun?
Would she love to have more space, freedom, and rights?
Do you want her to realise that with more rights come more responsibilities?
Would you love to see her grow into an empowered alive woman? But you’re resistant and sad to let go of your little girl?
Are you scared that she won’t find her way through these turbulent teenage years?
Is she prone to mood swings and emotional outbursts?
Yep, the teenage years are a tumultuous time and teen girls need to be supported through this.
Rite of Passage ceremonies have happened in Indigenous communities for over 30 000 years. They’re not just for the young people. They’re for the whole community. The parents are supported through their grief and letting go, the community is connected in support of their youth, and there is more responsibility taken for creating a safe future for young people to grow into.
The young people themselves are given the opportunity to face a challenge, and prove their new status.
Now, many people may think of violent and dangerous Rite of Passage rituals that boys undertake in Indigenous communities. But this is not necessary. In a culture living in a harsh environment, and engaged in battle, a Rite of Passage that involves facing pain and death is relevant. Not now.
Traditionally girls’ Rite of Passage included challenges such as isolation, or many hours of dancing. They were focused on developing intuition and inner wisdom, rather than on physical feats.
For us, in our culture where Rites of Passage are foreign, strange, and scary there won’t be any strange, foreign, or scary rituals. The challenge on our Radiant Woman retreat will include dancing, but only for a short session (not 12 hours through the night!!).
For teenage girls in our culture and community, being comfortable expressing themselves in front of others may be scary. Freedom of expression in movement, not dancing for performance or achievement, may be a new experience. Coming into our bodies and out of our heads, developing and trusting our intuition, are still valuable lessons. And are lessons that most teenage girls miss out on.
At Radiant Woman retreat we have an amazing dance teacher who will facilitate a two hour session for the girls. This will include time to be still and connect with themselves, some taught dance moves, and lots of free dance movement. Mums will not be in the same space at this time, but you will be supporting the process. The girls’ challenge will be to stay in their bodies as much as possible, in the beautiful hall at Gymea Retreat Centre, Northern NSW. If they choose to sit or only move a little during this challenge that’s OK. Simply being present in the space will be enough of a challenge for some.
We all need to be able to overcome challenges, to face fears and sit with uncomfortable emotions. It’s up to you if you want to disclose this information to her before she arrives at the retreat. Some will shy away from this. But facing and completing challenges is what makes us grow.
Being recognised as independent and strong of character will be so worthwhile for her.
Yes, there will be time apart at this retreat. Yes, Rite of Passage is about letting go of your child so she can transform into an adult.
In this letting go process you are opened to a new way of relating, an honouring of her unique and awesome self, and a strengthening of the bond you now share with her as an adult member of your community.
The Radiant Woman Retreat is a gift – for yourself, your daughter, your relationship, your family, and your wider community.
Value this as much or more than any other gift or holiday you could give her.
Find the time.
We look forward to having you join us.
Spaces are limited. Click HERE to book your spot.