Does your daughter feel confused about her future?
Would you love to see her living her life on purpose?
What do you feel the benefits would be? Do you imagine that she would be passionate about her work and contributing to her community? You probably realise that living her life on purpose will mean she values her health more, avoids excessive use of drugs or alcohol, and is generally mentally healthy.
Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the state of the world… by the statistics and stories of violence and abuse against women… by the slow slow slow move towards gender equality in leadership and economic participation… by the fast rates of environmental destruction… the ever increasing bizarre weather events…
It's schoolies time!! I live in Byron Bay, Australia and the graduating Years 12s will descend upon us here next week, to party and celebrate the end of an era.
What comes next is a big question for all of these teens. Some will have crystal clear vision and have already been accepted into courses for next year and others will be confused and lost for a while to come.
Have you found your direction? Are you fulfilled by your work?
When I ask mothers where they would like to see their teen in ten years time most say happy, in a job they enjoy, contributing to society, content with their lot, and finished school and uni - or some variation on this theme.
Finding a job they enjoy is essential to their satisfaction in life. If you answered that you are fulfilled by your work I'm guessing that your in a job that utilises your gifts and strengths, where you are valued for what you do, and where what you do has a positive impact on society.
Do you want the best for your teen?
A life of clear direction, confidence, great relationships, and all round happiness?
Do you worry that they’ll end up in a job they hate, going through the motions of a humdrum life without any real satisfaction?
Do you want them to set their sights high and then go for it?
3 ways to support your teen to dream BIG:
1. Encourage them to dream big for themselves AND others!!
Ask them what their dreams are. What do they really want for their life? Not just in their career, but also in the areas of relationships, lifestyle, health, and finances.
What kind of world would they love to live in? How can they contribute to this? What are the issues in the world that they care most about and that affect them emotionally? How can they use their gifts and talents to contribute?
“What will you do after school?”
“What do you want to be?”
I loathe this question… I loathed in when I was a teenager… and I loathe it now…
Although I pose it to teenagers quite often… it’s a talking point… a conversation starter… I don’t want to add to the pressure of the situation… but I’m sure I do…
A teacher I worked with used to tell the kids to make something up if they didn’t have an answer…. “just come up with something to tell people, get them off your back”…
Is “I don’t know” really that bad of an answer… do we really expect them to have their whole lives mapped out… of course not… so why the pressure…