Have your ever felt stressed – even when things have been going well in your life?
Yep, that’s me right now – and I’m guessing you’ve had this experience also.
We live in times of intense crisis. It is natural and normal to react with fear and stress. Although hard, it’s also an opportunity, to connect with and find a deeper peace.
I also believe that it’s dangerous to think that the problem lies 100% with us as individuals – and but we also need to consider how we can take positive action towards a healthier future for ourselves and for coming generations.
Both finding peace within ourselves, and taking positive action towards change are necessary. One is not effective without the other.
Today I’m going to talk mostly about finding peace within ourselves.
I’m usually a great sleeper. In my first year of teaching this wasn’t so. This was definitely the most overwhelming time in my life. It was frightening. My classes were chaos and I felt completely unprepared. One night I woke up dreaming of triangles!! (I’m a maths teacher and had a trigonometry lesson to teach the next day!!)
The last week or so I also haven’t been sleeping so well. Waking up about 3am and not getting back to sleep.
So what’s going on now? All good things. We’re getting bookings for our Radiant Woman: A Mother Daughter Rite of Passage Retreat. Mums are booking in and travelling to Byron from Sydney and Melbourne. Mums who have great relationships with their daughters already but are willing to invest their time and money to do some amazing to strengthen their bond and deepen their connection . Mums who value spending money on experience over stuff. Mums who know that their daughter needs a community of women to mentor and support.
I’ve started working with an organisation called The Making of Men. They run Rite of Passage camps for teenage boys and their dads. They’re planning on changing their name and expanding their work to offer programs for girls. Part of my role is to make suggestions and recommendations about best practice and program design for girls programs and also about how they can best support women and organisations who run programs for girls.
One of my recommendations is that instead of Dr Arne, leader and creator of The Making of Men programs, giving talks about the importance this Rite of Passage work for girls, it would be more effective to support and believe in the women involved to give these kind of talks themselves.
To step up to this, I’m offering a FREE webinar “Rites of Passage for Girls” which will be held live this Thursday at 5pm AEST (with a replay link available). Click HERE to register.
Exciting stuff!! What’s to be stressed about!?
Change. Taking risks. Risking failure. Risking criticism.
So 3 tips become more peaceful in your daily life….
1. Meditate… yep you hear about it all the time… and I’ve learnt meditation and practiced on and off for years… but lately I’ve been so focused on visualising and creating future outcomes … that I’ve forgotten the importance of simply being in the moment… I’ve started again the last week simply repeating a mantra for 20 minutes morning and evening… and it’s sweet relief… it’s already calming my mind… ah… you can find the time… it’s so worth it!!!
2. Get support… kinesiology, acupuncture, yoga, massage, time in nature, good food, women’s circles, counsellors, herbal and vitamin supplements etc. etc…. I’ve used all of these at different times in my life… it’s a sign of strength to ask for and receive support…
3. Die… yep, sounds extreme… but only when we can accept death as an absolute can we be fully present… a Buddhist practice is to imagine your body in the ground decomposing and meditate on this…. It’s emotionally challenging… there’s lots of grief around this… feel it… you need to be able to grieve all that has gone to be more comfortable with change and more present in the moment… it’s also only when you can accept death that you can accept that nothing about the future can be controlled… you may not even be here for it… dying to the past and the future allows you to fully live in the now…
Know that when you do these things stress will pass. Because ultimately everything changes.
How is your daughter coping with the major changes happening in her life as a teenager?
Change, letting go, death of childhood to emerge into adolescence and adulthood.
A Rite of Passage supports both you and your daughter through the death and rebirth process of this transition.
CLICK HERE to sign up for the free webinar “Rites of Passage for Girls”.
Look forward to seeing you there.